BUILDING A CONFIDENT CHILD

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a real blessing” (Psalm 127:3 GNT).

Our children are under attack like never before. The enemy has gone after the precious with but one aim. He wants to recruit them into his army; teaching them how to hate rather than love; to dishonor authority rather than honor authority.  He wants them to walk in ways of rebellion rather than in the ways of God,leading ultimately to their own self-destruction..

Statistics are alarming as to the vicious and cruel acts that are being carried out by children in the public arena.  But there is still hope for our children(And parents!).   An interesting by-product of various stats and analysis on today’s family reveal that when parents are engaged and present in a child’s life the incidents of  wrong or destructive behavior is far less noted. When the parent is not engaging with the child, this is when they move much more easily toward cruel, disrespectful and anti-social behavior.

Parents still are the greatest single influence in a child’s life and the choices they make.

A BLESSING

The psalmist reminds us that children are a blessing from God. Therefore, Let them know they are wanted. No matter how a child may have been brought into the world ,we must make it clear to the child that they were wanted. Celebrating the fact that God,the Author of life, sent them into the world is what helps them understand that they are special and unique. The status of what one “has” or “does not have” is not the most important reference point in a child’s life. Their guiding compass apart from parental care is the fact that they know they were wanted by God in the world. As Catherine Booth(wife of Gen. William Booth of the Salvation Army) was overheard speaking to one of her daughters who was in her baby crib, “You were not brought into this world for yourself, God brought you here for others”! A tribute to them as parents, their affirmation influenced everyone of their children to enter a life of extraordinary service to others for God.

SIGNIFICANCE

Children need to know they are significant,they matter. One of the sure ways this can be known is by the love shown, giving them the undivided attention they need.  In a child’s mind, love equals the TIME you spend with them. They recognize love when you are really present to the moments spent with them.

TRAINING

Children are to be trained in the ways of the Lord. This can be a rather intimidating proposition to a parent or guardian. After all, children do not come with an “Instruction Manual”! Nevertheless, we as parents have been given spiritual authority as well as practical wisdom. God has given us instructions in the Bible that help give guidelines and boundaries for the upbringing of children. Here are a few.

“Train a child in the way they should go, and when they are old they will not turn from it “(Proverbs 22:6). The word “train” here in the original is suggestive of the “placing of an arrow in a bowstring” and releasing it in the direction of the target in order for it to hit the mark, the bulls eye.” The psalmist wrote, “Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth”(Psalms 127:4 NKJV).

 Every child has a unique gift or talent(s) for which they are to honor God. Helping them discover this is the role of the parent(See Hebrews 11:23-27).

BOUNDARIES

Providing Biblical boundaries and encouragement is necessary if they are to achieve their God- given design. With gratitude the psalmist prayed,”I will never forget your precepts, for by them you have preserved my life”(Psalm 119:93 NIV). 

Children need to know that there are boundaries that govern all of life.  And when healthy boundaries are violated there are consequences. They need to have a honest and healthy respect for God and others if they will live a God-honored life. Proverbs gives practical insight as How to get along in life with God and others.  Building a confident child occurs by  loving them unconditionally, teaching them to love themselves responsibly and learning how to respect other human beings equally.  Jesus taught,”Honour your father and mother and You shall love your neigbor as thyself”(Matthew 19:19) 

Its possible to raise a confident child today. Its not always easy with the many challenges and temptations all around.  It’s not too late (even if they are away from home).  Pray daily for your children. Trust God’s faithfulness.  It is not merely what you SAY but what they SEE that makes the difference.

 

 

(c) Copyright. 2014, Walter Fletcher Jr. This article may be copied and shared free of charge provided that it is not sold or altered in any way from its original content. Please address all correspondence to: Walterfletcherjr@gmail.com.

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